Monday, February 18, 2008

Why having more kids then ?!!

We hear about disagreements and problems between married couples and how some of them stop knowing the reason why they r still together ..... it's sad but it happens .... what i don't understand is when such couples can't work on their issues either by refreshing their relationship or just get divorced but what u hear instead that they r expecting a child A NOTHOER CHILD !!
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They r fighting all the time !!! and they r having another child Oh god !!

having kids is a big responsibility and with it comes new life u have to deal with ! so if the parents need to work on their marriage then they have to; before involving new one because this baby will make things more complicated not easier like every body think ....
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I am talking about this because some one at work keeps telling me about her sister (I think she shouldn't but I can’t tell her not to vent)
the sister just hate her husband and he does the same ... when she told me so I was surprised !! why they got married in the first place !! she said el naseeb !! Ok but was it arranged or his mother forced him ? (I doubt)
- she said no he saw her and proposed and then they got married !!
- so they had some kind of chemistry between them what happened then !!
- well they just don't get along in their life !!

I was shocked when she said her sister has 4 kids !! and what IN 5 YEARS !!!! ok I don't want to be rude but why on earth does she keep having kids if they have problems in their life ....
she said I don't know I asked her the same question !!
I am sorry again but ur sister is Insane ! they shouldn't even think about being parents if they don't have good relation ship let alone having 4 KIDS !! and again stop me if i am over the line and being rude but do they feel the comfort in sex !! if so tell her to use some protection and keep having kids out of her mind it seems having kids didn’t make them close or solve their problems, having more won’t do !!
I swear the social service should call them and take the kids away until they work on their future or may I say the kids future !!

Seriously sometimes I think we have to have this kind of mental, relation ships and health tests for couples who want to have kids ..... because some of them don't even have the brain to be a parent !!

10 comments:

Qwaider قويدر said...

I know this is a tragedy, but I can't stop my self from laughing

It's ironic! She hates his guts, can't even look in his face, yet .. she finds times to enjoy making a baby here and there!

Contraceptives have been known since the ancient Egyptians. Not to mention that these days they're cheap, available and safe. If someone you HATE is sharing your bed, you might want to reconsider entangling another life in this whole "Maima3a"

Excellent topic ..

kinzi said...

Q, she may not enjoy the act, it my be part of the obligation.

I wish they would get some contraception and give marriage a go when she isn't hormonally imbalanced by pregnancy!

SimSim said...

Qwaider: This is what I have been telling her, thu I never get into people’s business especially this sensitive issue but I couldn’t not to tell her, let ur sister avoid having kids for god’s sake !! and as u said there r so many ways and they r safe and cheap I hope she will listen .... but it is sad to be with someone u don't love or stand in this young age with all these kids

Thanx Qwaider :)

SimSim said...

kinzi: this is really sad !! to make ur whole life some kind of obligation ....

and yes I hope she will do so ...

Diana said...

That's why I've always believed that one must choose his partner wisely, must be sure that this is the one I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with, and the one whom I want him/her to be the father/mother of my children.
It's a shame to raise my kids in such an atmosphere! 7aram wallahi, eno these innocent creatures suffer bcuz of their parents' stupidity and selfishness!!

and about having sex, it's true that it's an obligation, and it's the husband's right to have it, but I, like you, wonder how would a couple who "hate" each other have the guts to make love and bring another miserable creature to this world? Pathetic!

Anonymous said...

In a marriage that is still not well based. having a kid is a make or break. Meaning having a kid might bring them closer to each other and establish the strong base or break it because after having a kid both sides would start resenting each other and sometimes their baby since they had to stay togethet for the sake of that baby.
In the break case having more than one baby is just lame and lazy.
Since she saw that after the first baby things did not get any better she should've just stopped right there.
That's just my 2 cents

Maher said...

oh man..i hate it when people say that they got married because of nasseeb...i dont believe in it!
you love someone..you get married! as simple as that!

about the kids..the more...the merrier :P

they can play cards ma3 ba3ad..or even for a soccer team....no?

SimSim said...

Diana: can't agree more !

SimSim said...

Anonymous: i think that do and i told her sister so ... allah yehdehaa w yehdee el jamee3 3an jadd

SimSim said...

maher: walla !! :D no mesh sa7 3ashan tenjale6 el Um badree mneen bed-haa tla2ee meen abohom wella menhom lool